Pentimento: Who Are You Waiting For?

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Who Are You Waiting For?

This is a great post for those who are considering adoption, and also for anyone through whose mind the thought of adoption might have flashed for even just a nanosecond.

5 comments:

ex-new yorker said...: It actually flashed through my mind when I realized the illness would probably prevent us from having more biological kids -- except then I realized the only reason it would prevent us from having biological kids is the raising part, not the physical ability to have kids. So, oh well.

The part about wanting a child of one sex or other: it continues to be a weird source of joy for me that our probably last child is a third boy BECAUSE, while I have always consciously refused to embrace my feelings in this matter, there is no doubt that the unwilled emotional desire for a girl was strongest during that pregnancy, especially after having our first girl the previous time and with thinking how great it would be for her to have a sister. I felt disappointment during the ultrasound when I was told his sex, even though I didn't allow myself to "think" disappointment. I can't tell you how crazy I am about him now. I regularly say things to my husband like, "I'm so glad he's a boy, and not a girl, because he's him." I don't know how prospective adoptive parents can arrive at the same "this is the one meant for us" certainty as when a mother is told the sex of the child in her womb or just emerged from it, but I guess not having your mind set on one or the other (in hopes of influencing your heart) is one step?; December 7, 2011 at 12:31 PM
Pentimento said...: I don't know myself, but I'm the kind of person whose regular prayer is "Whatever."; December 7, 2011 at 1:30 PM
Anonymous said...: Beautiful - thanks for passing this on.; December 7, 2011 at 6:12 PM
Carla Dobs said...: Thanks for sharing such a wonderful post and blog...

I am totally in love with my little guy...

I would love to give an older boy a home as well!! God willing!!

Carla
www.bringinghenryhome.blogspot.com; December 8, 2011 at 10:15 AM
kkollwitz said...: We adopted a 7 and 11 year-old brother & sister from Russia in 1998 or 99. It's worked out. The scary part I think is simply the decision to do it.; December 21, 2011 at 1:51 PM